2016 is finally over.
For many, it was a particularly brutal year. For me, it was one of the best years of my life.
Mind you, it still had its challenges, from being laid up with injuries to having my car in the shop nine times, and my laptop — the heart of my business! — dying in the summer.
But mostly, it was a great year.
I bought a nice house less than three miles from my mom and dad, got my hands dirty and did some pre-move construction and finishing with my best friend, and moved myself and my queen in in February. We took out the above-ground pool, and installed a fire pit, around which we hosted two fun parties with many of the awesome people in our life.
I bought a great car and use it to drive for Uber and Lyft, which has proven to be both a viable source of income to cover my household overhead and a way to retain my agency as an entrepreneur. I get to listen to podcasts — I like to learn while I earn — and meet cool people, some of whom have become fans of my music. (Remember: Tip your Uber or Lyft driver!)
I’ve been reading anywhere from 20-80 pages of a book every day, and will include my recommended reading list below.
I got hired as a freelance writer and editor by my local newspaper, and conducted a 3-hour strategy session with them to help determine their core values as a business.
Because of the experience with my local paper, along with my blog, I ended up being hired by a candidate for Wayne County Circuit Court Judge to write a 14,000-word story of her life and career, which became the centerpiece for the grassroots social media movement I coordinated to maximize its impact. She ultimately won the election, and the votes needed in order to secure her seat on the bench were a direct result of my efforts, according to her social media manager.
I also began training in Wing Chun Do, a self-defense-focused martial art developed by Grandmaster (“Sijo”, see-jo) James DeMile based on his years of practicing and learning with Bruce Lee in the late 1950s and early 1960s. I had the opportunity to meet and learn directly from Sijo this past August, when he travelled from his home in Hawaii to bequeath the Wing Chun Do system and Grandmaster title to my personal instructor, Rocco Ambrose. I’m excited and fortunate to be learning from the Grandmaster of a martial art!
There wasn’t really a single thing that I would consider to be the best thing that happened to or for me in 2016, but I think overall, I’d have to say that I learned a lot about myself and my capacity to get things done, to become my best self. And I learned a lot about others, too.
Every day, I effort to learn something new. Whether it’s through reading a book, or listening to a podcast, or talking with a rider when I’m out driving, I’m constantly learning and applying the knowledge gained.
I think that having a student-like mindset is a great way to approach life, and I encourage others to ask tough questions, to seek deeper knowledge in all things.
But I always keep in mind something Sijo said during his visit: “If it doesn’t work for you, it’s pure entertainment.”
So this year, I encourage you to find what works for you, and use it to help you become better at whatever you’re doing and get closer to whatever it is you’re working toward. (I’d love to hear your story!)
What works for me is operating from a place of authenticity, and creating the best content I can.
I’m happy to announce that starting in 2017, I am now delivering content in three forms:
My blog, which, now that I have a new laptop (yay!), I will endeavor to publish on a weekly basis…
My music, of which a new song was released yesterday (the general consensus among the feedback I’m getting is that it may be my best song to date)…
Finally, my new podcast, Get After It! w/ John Kay, the first installment of which was published today at 5:00 AM! I’ve already interviewed five guests for Get After It!, respectable mavericks each of them, and plan to release a new installment on Monday of each week.
The first installment features my interview with Emily Schaller, the CEO of a Detroit-based non-profit organization called RockCF, which raises funds and awareness for the fight against cystic fibrosis. Emily’s story and life are inspiring, and every time I talk to her I feel the need to kick my butt a little more in my own efforts. She truly is a ray of brilliant light, and everyone can learn something from listening to her.
I’m grateful to anyone reading this right now, and to anyone who listens to my music and my podcast. If you like my music, please buy it. If you like what you hear on my podcast, please subscribe to it.
2016 is over. The best is yet to come! 🙂
New song, “We Know We’re Gonna Die”: https://johnkay.bandcamp.com/track/we-know-were-gonna-die
New podcast, interview with Emily Schaller: http://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/4951467
My 2016 recommended reading list:
Paul McCartney: The Life by Philip Norman
I was raised on the Beatles, classical music, and country music. Anyone who is a Beatles fan generally has a favorite Beatle, and mine was always Paul, although the songs that I loved the most and wanted to learn were usually George songs. This 800+ page book, a birthday gift from my parents, grabbed me from page one and I read it voraciously, at one point over 125 pages in a day. Paul was the meticulous one, the one who focused on the details, staying late into the night at the studio to get his bass parts just the way he wanted them, which is to say, perfect. This book reached into my soul, and I found myself empathizing with Paul in a way I wouldn’t have thought possible if someone told me so. The author had McCartney’s ‘tacit approval’ to interview anyone and everyone who knew Paul about anything and everything, so this truly is the definitive Paul McCartney biography. A must-read for anyone interested in one of the biggest superstars in the world.
The Song Machine: Inside the Hit Factory by John Seabrook
I hear all the time about how new music is no good, the radio sucks these days, all the songs sound the same. Well, this book explains why. From ABBA to Ace of Base to Kelly Clarkson and Rhianna and more, the evolution of pop music’s dominance is thoroughly broken down. You get the inside scoop on who really writes the music we hear everywhere — mostly white, middle-aged, Scandinavian men. This book was fascinating from start to finish, and I recommend everyone reads it. It’s full of delicious and salacious stories, from Ke$ha’s turbulent lawsuit against producer Dr. Luke, to the time Kelly Clarkson bawled her eyes out in Clive Davis’s office because he insisted on including “Since U Been Gone” on her sophomore record (it would go on to win the Grammy for Song Of The Year). Treat yourself to this book. You won’t regret it, even if it does disgust you.
Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday
I need to read this book again, this time with a highlighter. That’s something I have been doing more of, highlighting books as I read them. This year I’m going to transcribe the highlighted passages from my books onto index cards and create what’s known as a ‘commonplace book’ for myself. A commonplace book is a central resource or depository for ideas, quotes, anecdotes, observations, and information you come across during your life and didactic pursuits. The purpose of the book is to record and organize these gems for later use in your life, in your business, in your writing, speaking, or whatever it is that you do. Some of the greatest men and women in history have kept these books. Marcus Aurelius kept one, which more or less became the Meditations. Petrarch kept one. Montaigne, who invented the essay kept a handwritten compilation of sayings, maxims and quotations from literature and history that he felt were important. Thomas Jefferson kept one. Napoleon kept one. Bill Gates keeps one. I first heard of the idea of a commonplace book from Holiday’s blog, and liked the idea so much I decided to apply it. This book will be one of the first to get transcribed. It’s relatively short, and one can likely read it in a day or over a weekend. Beneficial to anyone.
Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle
This one hits you where it hurts: your smartphone. Everywhere we turn, most people seem to be looking down at a device. It’s the reality of the culture in which we live. But there are devastating side effects to our new habits that are only now being discovered. This book sheds light on those side effects. There’s a group of friends going out to dinner and mandating the creation of a ‘cell phone tower’ in the middle of the table, where everyone stacks their device on top of the others, and the first person to grab for theirs when it rings has to pay for the entire meal. Or consider that many young professionals fresh out of college and beginning their careers would rather talk to their colleagues, bosses, and employees through text, email, or Gchat, than have an actual one-on-one, face-to-face conversation. We are connecting with our devices more than we are with each other. According to Turkle, based on her research, this is a growing epidemic, the results of which are a general lack of empathy toward others and an inability to tolerate natural lulls and awkwardness in conversation. Sound like the world we live in? Ever since reading this book, I have effort to ‘elevate the conversation’ whenever possible. Instead of emailing, I’ll text. Instead of texting, I’ll call. Instead of calling, I’ll drop by. By elevating our conversations, we can reclaim our empathy and our connection to one another.
The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time by Arianna Huffington
Believe me, no one was as shocked as I that I purchased something from Arianna Huffington. Regardless of any opinion one may have about her, the information in the book is immediately applicable. Since reading it, I do my best to get at least 7 hours of sleep every single night. You should, too.
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